I gave up men because I am emotionally unavailable…

…well, at least I am trying to give up men (and no, I am not into women for all you wondering minds).
If there is one thing to know about me, it is that I do not do outward emotions very well. I can do HAPPY, dead-pan, TIRED, sad or angry (if I try hard enough) but I am what you normally call emotionally bankrupt. Except I am not emotionally bankrupt, I have plenty of emotions – mostly swinging between happy and totally (inwardly) distressed.

When it comes to life, I know how to put on my smiley brave face no matter what happens because I know I would be fine! Come rain, sunshine, an F or an A (it better be an A) on my midterms, I know I would figure something out.BUT when it comes to dating and relationships, the ball is not in my court. I have no control over everything that happens. Heck, I don’t even think I have control over 10% of what happens. Which mean, I have no clue whatsoever if I would be fine. And that scares the crap out of me because I am broken. I am broken, by past mistakes, past relationships and past experiences. And I am not willing to fix myself only for someone to pick me apart – so I am emotionally unavailable!

Being emotionally unavailable is actually more common than you may think. If you are the type of guy or girl that is only attracted to men and women already in relationships, then my dear you are emotionally unavailable because you know deep down you do not want to be in a relationship. You cannot stand the thought of you opening up yourself to the possibility of being hurt. So you got through the motion of “dating” just to satisfy the need to be with someone else.

Well, I am done with that because believe it or not, someone still gets hurt. Being me, I would always be the one hurt because no matter how things go, the pain I feel is either from being hurt or the guilt from me hurting someone without knowing it. SO I QUIT

I am single cuz I’m nice aka Boys are a mass of contradiction

Its bad enough when people half your age have better love-lives than you do but when your love-life sucks because YOU ARE TOO DAWN NICE that just burns. Let’s be honest here, I think I’m a nice person but not scarily nice that I heavens forbid undateable – which is why I was perplexed to be dumped and then told you are nice, you’d find someone else.

If you didn’t know said ex of mine, here is a sum up of how I became awestruck at my latest (mis)fortunate.

So le boo wasn’t looking to meet any girl but had an open mind in case he met a NICE girl along the way (as I write this, Ii question the last part of my statement). However, he was shocked to find said niceness in a short (black) Nigerian girl and truth be told he thought said girl would become a scary version of herself once the relationship became official. 7 months, a few fights, one missed family meeting, 1 breakup and the chase that ensued (that’s a story for another day) later, the girl i.e. ME was still considerably nice. Then came a business trip to Nigeria (him not me),  night of uneventful conversation (mainly cuz i was ill) and BAM!!! You are hereby dumped (again) because you are nice enough to get someone else.

So herein lies my confusion! if you want a nice girl but then you dump her cuz she is nice!!! I was always told women are a mass of contradiction but I didn’t know MEN ALREADY HELD THE FIRST PLACE PRIZE for that category. women at least give you months of signs and notice of their impending bomb-shell.

 

So please can someone enlighten me on the dangers of being nice in a relationship because I am now not afraid to tell ladies in good faith that they shouldn’t be too shy to thrown in a few scary moments into their relationships if they want to keep their man. 

ReBlog: Pretty Girl Looking for $500k+ guy …. JP Morgan CEO Replies

This is reblogged from  http://www.wetindey.com/2014/02/pretty-girl-seeking-rich-husband-got.html

But here is the post f you can’t be bothered to click away

A young and pretty lady posted this on a popular forum:

Title: What should I do to marry a rich guy?


I’m going to be honest of what I’m going to say here. I’m 25 this year. I’m very pretty, have style and good taste. I wish to marry a guy with $500k annual salary or above. You might say that I’m greedy, but an annual salary of $1M is considered only as middle class in New York.

My requirement is not high. Is there anyone in this forum who has an income of $500k annual salary? Are you all married? I wanted to ask: what should I do to marry rich persons like you?

Among those I’ve dated, the richest is $250k annual income, and it seems that this is my upper limit.
If someone is going to move into high cost residential area on the west of New York City Garden(?), $250k annual income is not enough.

I’m here humbly to ask a few questions:

1) Where do most rich bachelors hang out? (Please list down the names and addresses of bars, restaurant, gym)
2) Which age group should I target?
3) Why most wives of the riches are only average-looking? I’ve met a few girls who don’t have looks and are not interesting, but they are able to marry rich guys.
4) How do you decide who can be your wife, and who can only be your girlfriend? (my target now is to get married)
Ms. Pretty

A philosophical reply from CEO of J.P. Morgan when you continue!

Dear Ms. Pretty,
I have read your post with great interest. Guess there are lots of girls out there who have similar questions like yours. Please allow me to analyse your situation as a professional investor.
My annual income is more than $500k, which meets your requirement, so I hope everyone believes that I’m not wasting time here.
From the standpoint of a business person, it is a bad decision to marry you. The answer is very simple, so let me explain.

Put the details aside, what you’re trying to do is an exchange of “beauty” and “money” : Person A provides beauty, and Person B pays for it, fair and square.
However, there’s a deadly problem here, your beauty will fade, but my money will not be gone without any good reason. The fact is, my income might increase from year to year, but you can’t be prettier year after year.

Hence from the viewpoint of economics, I am an appreciation asset, and you are a depreciation asset. It’s not just normal depreciation, but exponential depreciation. If that is your only asset, your value will be much worse 10 years later.

By the terms we use in Wall Street, every trading has a position, dating with you is also a “trading position”.
If the trade value dropped we will sell it and it is not a good idea to keep it for long term – same goes with the marriage that you wanted. It might be cruel to say this, but in order to make a wiser decision any assets with great depreciation value will be sold or “leased”.

Anyone with over $500k annual income is not a fool; we would only date you, but will not marry you. I would advice that you forget looking for any clues to marry a rich guy. And by the way, you could make yourself to become a rich person with $500k annual income.This has better chance than finding a rich fool.

Hope this reply helps.

signed,
J.P. Morgan CEO

Friendzoners vs Nice Guys

Someone just shared this with me on Facebook and I have to say I totally and utterly agree with the whole strip. I mean, can’t a guy JUST be nice for being nice sake….but that is a story for another.

by the way, my internet is killing me and seems to die every time i want to do something important like blog or an online numerical test to get a summer internship. anyways enjoy ans share.

Friendzoners vs Nice Guy (this is not my property)

Sour relationships

Being terribly young (so people say), I can be extremely naive when it comes to several things – relationships included. I sometimes follow the if it was meant to be it would be paradox or the relationships is a little compromise and a whole lot of love approach ; none of which has any scientific evidence to back them up. However, what fascinates me the most is when in see people in what appears to be love-less  (and frankly emotionally abuse relationships) I wonder, Why do this to yourself? 

So far all I have been told is that in life, you have to give a little to get a little back. well, in these cases it almost seems someone is giving a lot and has nothing but a relationship status to show for it. When a guy or gal pours their heart and soul into a relationship, shouldn’t that be enough? I have honestly seen people give up their identity or some of their beliefs because they believe when you love someone, you think about the person more than yourself. but why do they have to give up who they are to please their partner or stay in a relationship. If love is really selfless, why can’t their partner do the same for them and allow their flaws, their identity, their beliefs or at least accept and love them for who they are. Wasn’t that the person you fell in love with in the first place? It makes me think that sometimes people do not fall in love with the person, they fall for who they can make the person become – which are two different things. yes, i know you can love someone and still make them someone else but not someone totally different up to a point where they feel worthless and in-fact grateful to only you for managing to love them.

But perhaps I am seeing thing wrong! When does one decide that a relationship has gone sour and past its expiration date? is it when they no longer say “I love you” or when the name calling and swearing starts. Should you just leave or should you fight for what you saw in the first place?

I am interested to know what people think. Please leave your comments below