Its bad enough when people half your age have better love-lives than you do but when your love-life sucks because YOU ARE TOO DAWN NICE that just burns. Let’s be honest here, I think I’m a nice person but not scarily nice that I heavens forbid undateable – which is why I was perplexed to be dumped and then told you are nice, you’d find someone else.
If you didn’t know said ex of mine, here is a sum up of how I became awestruck at my latest (mis)fortunate.
So le boo wasn’t looking to meet any girl but had an open mind in case he met a NICE girl along the way (as I write this, Ii question the last part of my statement). However, he was shocked to find said niceness in a short (black) Nigerian girl and truth be told he thought said girl would become a scary version of herself once the relationship became official. 7 months, a few fights, one missed family meeting, 1 breakup and the chase that ensued (that’s a story for another day) later, the girl i.e. ME was still considerably nice. Then came a business trip to Nigeria (him not me), night of uneventful conversation (mainly cuz i was ill) and BAM!!! You are hereby dumped (again) because you are nice enough to get someone else.
So herein lies my confusion! if you want a nice girl but then you dump her cuz she is nice!!! I was always told women are a mass of contradiction but I didn’t know MEN ALREADY HELD THE FIRST PLACE PRIZE for that category. women at least give you months of signs and notice of their impending bomb-shell.
So please can someone enlighten me on the dangers of being nice in a relationship because I am now not afraid to tell ladies in good faith that they shouldn’t be too shy to thrown in a few scary moments into their relationships if they want to keep their man.
Many a times, I sit wondering if there is such as thing as Happy Ever After. I just don’t mean the one you see on TV with Cinderella and all the other Disney characters – I mean real life happy ever after. Let’s be honest this is not the newest topic on planet earth but I’m quite fascinated by happily ever afters. Some people say yes they are happy ever afters whilst some adamantly protest against the very notion of happy ever afters.
I am of the opinion that we go through life in a series of happy ever afters. Frankly the notion of having just one happy ever after is just too depressing to think-I will like to think I would live my life with many many happy moments. But really what counts as a happy ever after – by its most popular definition it means finding love in another person BUT is that all there is to it. What if I am one of the unlucky ones and never find love, does that mean I don’t have a happy ever after? Does pursuing a career and wealth stop me from finding love another person?
Well, I think not! I will live my life with many many happy ever afters because I have decided to mark the end of every happy phase in my life at the end of the story. Think you it as the series 24 – the characters always change every season but the constant are Jack Bauer and Chloe O’Brian – I am the one constant in my life and everyone else just moves along. I have happy days and I have bad days but in the end I will relish in the thought that I will had many happy days by the time I’m gone.
Okay so I was just on Facebook trolling before I shut my eyes (yes! Like every other 21st century sleep-deprived youth) and came across this image
It instantly took me to my first year of uni (and some conversation I still have with new friends till today), trying to explain what life in Africa is really like. To be honest I am honestly very surprised at so many of misconceptions but I can’t help but laugh at some people’s silent horror that majority of Africans don’t actually live in mud huts . It’s even worse for those who travel to African countries and get an unexpected culture shock because they didn’t expect Internet, washing machines, race tracks, malls and Apple stores on Africa.
Having said this, I look forward to dispelling my instructed misconceptions about many Asian, Caribbean and American States /countries (hint: you can sponsor my future travelling addiction)
Okay, so it came to my attention that 21st century men and women would rather have pets (I.e dogs and cats) as opposed to having children. Why????
Come on people, there are a million and one reasons to still get knocked up and pop out some minions. Everything from being more likely to get a seat on the tube/train to having your own personal dishwasher that doesn’t use up electricity. I mean in China being pregnant gives you wifi (see picture below). You could even have your own hand-free for your mobile phone while you kick back to watch the movie he:she has tuned in for you!!! Throwing up and eating huge meals would be totally acceptable. And the much needed afternoon nap would be welcomed and even encouraged.
So why aren’t people planning to have babies
Yes! you read the title correctly and NO this isn’t a feminism or men-hating post (plus why would I hate men, they make good eye candy and provide endless hours of girl chat time). This is in fact me sharing an interesting conversation I had with a Male.
As every red-blooded female would tell you, it is very frustrating when the men in their lives tell them what to do – simply because the know what is best for them. It even ticks them off more when the men believe they know whats right because they feel superior and women are supposed to be the inferior sex.
Well Guess again. I have been told by previously mentioned wise old male that men only feel the need to control women and feel “superior” because they are in fact the Inferior sex! If like me you have a frown on your face trying to figure this out then this next statement would probably make more sense. He said, “well missy, don’t you think the fact God created man first meant he did a better job the second time round”.
so there you have it in the words of unnamed wise man, Men are the inferior sex. Think of that the next time your men tell you they are right (except of course when they are :p)
Okay. I know we have all been there ; you are craving a really good lunch – dim sum, chinese, Italian, French and the list goes on BUT you are either too broke or chained to your desk to indulge in the ultimate lunch. So here are some of the ways I cheat at a fancy meal
I cannot stress how much this simple trick makes eating lunch so much more stress-free for me. It means I can have my lunch ready in 5-10 mins (at work ) and enjoy the rest of the hour eating or reading a good book.
So look into your fridge and think of what you may fancy having for the week on Sunday. Prepare one or more type of salad (my faves bases are couscous and spicy cucumber) and portion these in little pots. Then make use of all that left over Sunday roast, potatoes and veg. You can make a variety of things from pulled pork to veg and potato cakes.
You can also make your pancake mix ahead and even fry then (they are better thin, crepe sizes) and pop them in the fridge as well. Wraps works just as well.
But tiny jars for condiments and sauces. Baguettes, crackers (or bread biscuits) as they work well as basis of a good snack.
Portion any other bits you like. Fruits, chicken, pudding – yes you can even enjoy a. Sticky toffee pudding at work.
Suggested recipes to follow over the next few days with a new lunch recipe bring published every Tuesday