I gave up men because I am emotionally unavailable…

…well, at least I am trying to give up men (and no, I am not into women for all you wondering minds).
If there is one thing to know about me, it is that I do not do outward emotions very well. I can do HAPPY, dead-pan, TIRED, sad or angry (if I try hard enough) but I am what you normally call emotionally bankrupt. Except I am not emotionally bankrupt, I have plenty of emotions – mostly swinging between happy and totally (inwardly) distressed.

When it comes to life, I know how to put on my smiley brave face no matter what happens because I know I would be fine! Come rain, sunshine, an F or an A (it better be an A) on my midterms, I know I would figure something out.BUT when it comes to dating and relationships, the ball is not in my court. I have no control over everything that happens. Heck, I don’t even think I have control over 10% of what happens. Which mean, I have no clue whatsoever if I would be fine. And that scares the crap out of me because I am broken. I am broken, by past mistakes, past relationships and past experiences. And I am not willing to fix myself only for someone to pick me apart – so I am emotionally unavailable!

Being emotionally unavailable is actually more common than you may think. If you are the type of guy or girl that is only attracted to men and women already in relationships, then my dear you are emotionally unavailable because you know deep down you do not want to be in a relationship. You cannot stand the thought of you opening up yourself to the possibility of being hurt. So you got through the motion of “dating” just to satisfy the need to be with someone else.

Well, I am done with that because believe it or not, someone still gets hurt. Being me, I would always be the one hurt because no matter how things go, the pain I feel is either from being hurt or the guilt from me hurting someone without knowing it. SO I QUIT

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Pretence 101: Adulthood

You know that saying that if you believe in yourself anything is possible, well I have adopted that principle to adulthood. As you are all (not) aware that I turned 22!! a week ago, and since I realised that in all my pretence to be an adult, I have fully embraced, unwillingly if I might add, all the trappings of the adulthood thing.

No matter how old I get, I would still HATE shopping 

I can do my laundry the way I WANT IT  

Sleep is MY new BEST FRIEND

 

I tried beer and it isn’t Horrible

 

Best of all, 

I am perfectly content with where I am right now – I am still broke, single and looking for a graduate job BUT my birthday this year was the best because I was on the right path. I actually realised that despite what my undergraduate lecturer and the HR woman from the bank which shall not be mentioned, I am SMART, BEAUTIFUL and will be SUCCESSFUL (in Investment Banking – my internship reference proves it)!

In other news, i almost like a boy and no longer mind taking pictures – enjoy

 


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Men are the Inferior sex

Yes! you read the title correctly and NO this isn’t a feminism or men-hating post (plus why would I hate men, they make good eye candy and provide endless hours of girl chat time). This is in fact me sharing an interesting conversation I had with a Male.

As every red-blooded female would tell you, it is very frustrating when the men in their lives tell them what to do – simply because the know what is best for them. It even ticks them off more when the men believe they know whats right because they feel superior and women are supposed to be the inferior sex.

Well Guess again. I have been told by previously mentioned wise old male that men only feel the need to control women and feel “superior” because they are in fact the Inferior sex! If like me you have a frown on your face trying to figure this out then this next statement would probably make more sense. He said, “well missy, don’t you think the fact God created man first meant he did a better job the second time round”.

so there you have it in the words of unnamed wise man, Men are the inferior sex. Think of that the next time your men tell you they are right (except of course when they are :p)

Feminist’s dilemma over this sexist restuarant

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I love this picture for so many reasons! It helps show so many people who ask me if I am Feminist or not – the answer being I am not your definition of Feminist because I would honestly like cheaper Car Insurance and some other special treatment (like shopping discounts), so I don’t class myself as a true feminist. 

But the picture above is an answer to some people’s cries that a woman’s only place is not in the Kitchen!!! – right?! but also some would say this is sexist as only the MEN are allowed work in this particular kitchen. Which is in essence a discrimination against the women who may want to work here. But hey! you can’t have it all

To be fair I don’t think a whole lot of women work in commercial kitchens – I find it is mostly men who are the chefs but man the women head chefs I have had the pleasure of dining at their establishment can cook a storm.

so guys, tell me what you think – Is this SEXIST or a step in favour of FEMINISM

Do you love me…

One can only imagine the agony of asking the heavily ladened questions of “Do You Love Me? but one can but hope the answer to such a question will be a resounding “hell yeah!” from the one you love (or so you think). However, what are you to do when the reply you receive is laced with hesitation and a questioning gaze. You know you should have not asked if you were not ready to face the answer but now that you have, Do you play the fair maiden in distress and weep your eyes out, or ponder into the night wondering what could have been or do you simply accept the answer as it is – a NO.
Or is it?! The hundreds of drama movies you have seen definitely tells you that hesitation or deflection simply means no but they care enough to stay with you But by god, all the romcom have only taught you that fear = hesitation and love is very scary. But who are Hollywood directors and playwrights to dictate the direction of your life! You think of all the times these movies have failed to prepare you for real life – your real life. But then again, they have taught you so much about yourself and dealing with your life.
You think and think and think….all in the pregnant pause it took to answer the question “Do You Love Me?”

ReBlog: Pretty Girl Looking for $500k+ guy …. JP Morgan CEO Replies

This is reblogged from  http://www.wetindey.com/2014/02/pretty-girl-seeking-rich-husband-got.html

But here is the post f you can’t be bothered to click away

A young and pretty lady posted this on a popular forum:

Title: What should I do to marry a rich guy?


I’m going to be honest of what I’m going to say here. I’m 25 this year. I’m very pretty, have style and good taste. I wish to marry a guy with $500k annual salary or above. You might say that I’m greedy, but an annual salary of $1M is considered only as middle class in New York.

My requirement is not high. Is there anyone in this forum who has an income of $500k annual salary? Are you all married? I wanted to ask: what should I do to marry rich persons like you?

Among those I’ve dated, the richest is $250k annual income, and it seems that this is my upper limit.
If someone is going to move into high cost residential area on the west of New York City Garden(?), $250k annual income is not enough.

I’m here humbly to ask a few questions:

1) Where do most rich bachelors hang out? (Please list down the names and addresses of bars, restaurant, gym)
2) Which age group should I target?
3) Why most wives of the riches are only average-looking? I’ve met a few girls who don’t have looks and are not interesting, but they are able to marry rich guys.
4) How do you decide who can be your wife, and who can only be your girlfriend? (my target now is to get married)
Ms. Pretty

A philosophical reply from CEO of J.P. Morgan when you continue!

Dear Ms. Pretty,
I have read your post with great interest. Guess there are lots of girls out there who have similar questions like yours. Please allow me to analyse your situation as a professional investor.
My annual income is more than $500k, which meets your requirement, so I hope everyone believes that I’m not wasting time here.
From the standpoint of a business person, it is a bad decision to marry you. The answer is very simple, so let me explain.

Put the details aside, what you’re trying to do is an exchange of “beauty” and “money” : Person A provides beauty, and Person B pays for it, fair and square.
However, there’s a deadly problem here, your beauty will fade, but my money will not be gone without any good reason. The fact is, my income might increase from year to year, but you can’t be prettier year after year.

Hence from the viewpoint of economics, I am an appreciation asset, and you are a depreciation asset. It’s not just normal depreciation, but exponential depreciation. If that is your only asset, your value will be much worse 10 years later.

By the terms we use in Wall Street, every trading has a position, dating with you is also a “trading position”.
If the trade value dropped we will sell it and it is not a good idea to keep it for long term – same goes with the marriage that you wanted. It might be cruel to say this, but in order to make a wiser decision any assets with great depreciation value will be sold or “leased”.

Anyone with over $500k annual income is not a fool; we would only date you, but will not marry you. I would advice that you forget looking for any clues to marry a rich guy. And by the way, you could make yourself to become a rich person with $500k annual income.This has better chance than finding a rich fool.

Hope this reply helps.

signed,
J.P. Morgan CEO